Rapid Regulation and Relief Videos

Explore our collection of Rapid Regulation & Relief videos, featuring powerful emotional first-aid strategies and interventions. Learn key techniques for immediate recovery and stabilization, designed to help you confidently address moments of overwhelm and dysregulation. Perfect for anyone looking to enhance their healing toolbox and support others in their journey.

Humanitarian Outreach: A Visit With Gene Monterastelli

  • Some of Gene’s takeaways from his many outreach experiences are to ‘normalize’ by telling the truth: this feels hard because it IS hard. Make offers and ask questions – what do they need?  (“How can I be helpful?”) And he famously says ‘ask one more quality question,’ vs plowing ahead with any assumptions. He also aligns perfectly with my point of view in ‘right tool for right time,’ as it’s easy to think whatever technique you prefer or are confident about is NOT always the right time or place or person for that particular technique.

Humanitarian Outreach: A Visit With Placide NKubito

  • Today's resource video from my friend and colleague Placide Nkubito of Rwanda. A genocide survivor and Communications Officer for Peaceful Heart Network, a Social Worker and Missionary, and traveling emotional first-aid teacher, he has things to share with you about becoming a healing agent in the world.

    ANYONE and EVERYONE can help; it might be easier than you think. You WILL make mistakes, and you can learn from them. Being a servant in service to others is on-the-job-training, although there are many things you could learn that will help you help others, like TTT, RRR, Emotional First-aid practices and becoming trauma-informed.

    Think more about helping people to problem solve, vs an agenda of 'fixing' and remember your service is an offer. Become familiar with your heart, your intentions and your boundaries in order to discern which, who, what is yours to do.

    People WILL ask about qualifications, and are likely quite activated themselves, and you may encounter a lot of misunderstanding, but it's part of the work. Not everyone will like it (or you!), but if you'll learn to take care of yourself and your spirit, calmly reflecting, your heart will help you find the right people where your gifts will be received.

    Even though we aren't meant to 'go it alone' you will some days. You are only one person, but being fully present, available will help you connect with others and organizations. Remember, 'rejection' is a mindset, so build within you a foundation of back-to-Life; cultivate your memory for everyone who has helped you along the way, and be that person for someone else, now.

    Remember: There is no small Help. Every time you help, another advance is made. Everyone can help. Ask what you can do for them. Develop compassion from all the things that have brought you here to this place, today, and simply offer your service, in return.

    You can reach Placide Nkubito through the Peaceful Heart Network, and support their international humanitarian relief work here ( info@PeacefulHeart.se ) or through his personal email ( placidkubito@gmail.com ), or through Jondi Whitis.

Humanitarian Outreach: A Visit With Amy Frost

  • Please enjoy her down to earth, practical advice and key points for joining us all in Humanitarian Outreach. It's not complicated - it's important and foundational to your success in helping others in times of trouble.

    You can reach her here: Amy@AmyFrost.com

Humanitarian Outreach: A Visit With Kristin Miller

  • Kristin is another home-grown hero, who worked for years in the shelters of northern California, sitting without hundreds of displaced and suffering from fires and natural disasters. Looking back on all this for takeaways, she sees the wisdom of working on and regulating the self before ever approaching others to help those in the messy event called ‘recovery.’  In order to be invited to help, she urges us to be in frequent contact with all kinds of people in the community so that, when crisis happens, you are well-connected within the community to serve.  She cautions that ‘waiting until we’re invited in’ rarely results in that invitation! So, at the very least, show up as a good, well-known neighbor with the secret weapons of a smile, soft gaze, and definitely not as ‘the expert.’  Sometimes the best things we can do is ‘sit with’ and listen. And further, as often people are highly activated in the fear, sorrow and anger, remember to disengage if your own safety is compromised by the interaction.